Are the colors in your world pretty?

So, my therapist says I need an outlet for my "energy" and suggested a blog.  A blog...a place for me to put my thoughts out there for the world to comment on.  Yeah, sounds like a plan for the person with an anxiety disorder...lol!

Well here goes.  What is on my mind today?  Well, remember when you were little and you got in a fight with your sibling and your parents woulds say, "There are two sides to every story and then the truth"?  Well, I have been thinking about this a great deal the past few days.  I mean, I have five kids in my house.  I know first hand that an event can happen and I will get five different versions of the same event.  Our lives color the way we see things.  It is part of being human.  I accept that.  That is why it is important to communicate.  We have drilled into our kids this very moral lesson.  Your side is not the only side.  I practice it in my life.

But what do you do when you are dealing with someone who lives in that "my way or the highway" life?  How do you deal with with someone who refuses to accept any blame in disagreements or conflict?  It is so frustrating.  It is bang your head on a wall, stomp your feet and scream frustrating.  You are willing to take your own blame in the conflict but you are dealing with a person who basically says, "It is all your fault".

Granted, I would love to know what it is like to be perfect.  I mean, when you are saying "it is all your fault", you are, in fact, saying your are 100% blameless....a vision of perfection.  Now, as a Christian, I know I am not perfect or blameless in life.  We try to live our lives in the image of Christ, but we fall short, no matter how hard we try.  So, when I am dealing with someone like this, all I want to say is, "Please, tell me about life as a perfect specimen of the human race!"  <Yes, sarcasm is a family trait....love you, Dad!>

What I know as fact is this:  disagreements happen...people in your life will hurt you, sometimes badly....we will be disappointed in our children's choices sometimes....we will be disappointed in our own choices sometimes.  But I have yet to see a situation where there is discord that there was one person holding all the blame and one person who was blameless.  We all contribute.  The person most wrong is the one who refuses to own their part in the discord.  The person most wrong is the one who blames everyone else for their faults.  The person with the most blame...well that is undoubtedly the one who is going around saying "it is their fault".

I mess up....daily.  The best lesson I have taught my children is probably when I tell them "I'm Sorry!".  I don't always make the right decisions, but I own them.  There is not a day that goes by that I don't, upon reflection, see a place where I could have been better....a better wife, a better mother, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend...but mostly, a better Christian.

So, all of you "perfect people", I am sorry the rest of us humans disappoint you so.

Sincerely,
A very flawed and imperfect person